Listen more and talk less. Often when our partner is expressing themselves or giving us feedback, we feel this need to explain ourselves and get defensive. The truth is, the last thing your partner wants is to hear is excuses or defensiveness. Defensiveness is the cause of most arguments. What would be helpful is to say, “I am sorry that happened” or “Ok, I hear you, I can work on that.” We spend so much time trying to defend ourselves, we could have just listened and the battle would have never begun. Most times we just want to be heard and acknowledged. Happy listening!